25. Understanding Your Not-Self

May 7, 2019 | Human Design

You may have heard me mention the “Not Self” before. But I’ve never really gone into what it is. That’s where this episode comes in. 

The not-self is a term we use in Human Design when the mind falsely identifies us as something we’re not. 

So a projector thinking (and acting like) they’re a hard worker – or that they’re a worker bee – is the not-self. Because projectors aren’t here to work hard all the time. Being a hard worker occasionally is fine. But being a hard worker all day every day is part of the not-self for projectors. 

Many of us come to Human Design having lived as our not-self our entire lives. We listen to what our society or our families tell us we need to be – a hard worker, an initiator, a go-getter, etc. And then we mentally identify with that. So we spend most of our lives in our not-self, not working with our energy and wondering why things aren’t going great. 

This episode is here to change that. 

 

We’ll cover

– The Not-Self theme for each Human Design type

– The Not-Self theme for each center

– Figuring out your whole Not-Self theme

– Steps to distance yourself from your Not-Self theme so you can live in alignment with your energy

 

✏️ Show Notes

? The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer will help you observe your thoughts. (Use this to observe your Not-Self behaviors.)

? The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle will help you be present in the moment and to release your attachment to your thoughts and emotions. (Very hepful for those of us with an undefined solar plexus.)

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Ardelia Lee - Projector, Compass, and Adventurer

Ardelia Lee - Projector, Compass, and Adventurer

Hey! I’m Ardelia (pronounced ar-DEAL-ya). I’m basically a walking, talking energetic compass and a Human Design projector on a journey to understand + fully experience what it means to be a projector.

And I’m here to support and guide you, fellow projector, as you start discovering and working with your Human Design to create a life (or a business) that’s sustainable, fulfilling, and enjoyable. In short, I’m here to help you be an aligned projector and to release all the conditioning and pressure that you’ve experienced.